You Might Want To Read This If Everyone Hates Your Boyfriend

“When you discover your parents strongly disapprove of your boyfriend, your first inclination will be to pull away from them and continue your dating relationship behind their back. This doesn’t do anybody any good. Never secretly date someone your parents don’t want you to date. Having secrets and lies between you and your parents ruins trust and causes needless stress and drama which will affect your self-esteem, grades, and even your other friends. Just because they are your parents and you don’t agree with them doesn’t make them dumb. In fact, the opposite is true. Although far from perfect, they have years of experience and wisdom you don’t. This can allow them to see the character faults in your bf a whole lot easier than you, especially if you’re blinded by the deep emotions you feel for your bf.”

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At some point, every woman will date someone of whom their friends and family won’t approve. I’m not talking about friends just disliking your partner over something trivial, but a deep-rooted hatred because, well, maybe the person you’re dating really is the worst thing in the world (here are 4 ways to tell). I had one of those, and everyone who loved me hated him. It just took me awhile to understand why, and when I did, I kicked myself for not seeing the light sooner.

I asked the ladies their thoughts on the matter. How does it feel when you’re dating someone whom all your friends and family despise and think is toxic? Do you tell your friends and family to eff off? Proceed with caution? Or call it quits with the person in question? Here’s what they had to say.

I don’t care. I do what I want.

“I usually take the rebellious road and continue at an even faster pace into the arms of disaster and self-destruction. And then regret. Which is basically why I gave up dating entirely,” says Sarah, 37.

If my friends and family don’t like them, I’m out.

“No, done, over, over immediately. But then, my parents like just about everyone, so if they disliked someone it would be because they had actively seen him axe murdering people,” says Jennifer, 27.

“Not a good idea to be with someone all your friends and family despise. It’s kinda like in the Portrait of a Lady…” says Mieko, 38.

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